Apparently I am the only one that feels this way…

Okay so by now you have heard of Laura Ling and Euna Lee the two woman who have been charged with conspiracy and sentenced to 12 years hard labor in North Korea. And our government is scrambling and speeding endless resources attempting to negotiate a release for them. These women’s actions have created an international incident and have severely complicated our relations with North Korea.

And no doubt you have heard that one of them (Euna Lee) has a 4 year old daughter at home waiting for her return. And why my heart breaks for their entire families, the actions of this mother just disgust me.*

As a child, I dreamed of being a foreign reporter- well actually a photographer for National Geographic- but still I had the dream of travelling to remote sometimes dangerous places to capture and report back on what I saw. I held on to the dream until one day something happened that in my mind made this dream IMPOSSIBLE; I be came a mother. When I became a mother I realized immediately that making choices to put myself in harms way was far too great a risk when I knew I was now responsible to raise and care for this other life on earth. I made a very conscious choice to HAVE the child, and now I must be certain I do all that I can to protect and care for the child. Taking unnecessary risks to benefit my career or ego was tantamount to child neglect in my book. And so I very quietly put that risky dream away and traded it for others. Like fulfilling the dream of watching my son graduate from preschool, and high school and while we are at it? Maybe pick up an Academy award and Pulitzer too. (Hey it is my dream).

So when I heard about this young mother who CHOOSE to put herself into a potentially risky situation to report from the center of a turbulent political area- I was appalled. And now? This little girl is left without her mother. She will not know her her mother for the next 12 years. AND she will grow up knowing that her mother choose her career over her child in a very real way.

I have felt this feeling before. When I see people who INSIST on climbing Mt. Everest, and then they are in need of a rescue to save their lives. They want us to SAVE THEIR LIVES when they deliberately took this unnecessary and potential suicidal risk to inflate their own ego? I say no way. You want to partake in a ‘hobby’ that is life threatening? Fine. But don’t ask for help or resources when your life is actually THREATENED.

I know, I know I can hear you all yelling at your monitors about equal rights and ‘having it all’….but guess what ladies? YOU CAN’T. You can not be a true protector of your children when you are placing your self in jeopardy or risk. If you want to have that kind of life or career, then do yourself, your family, your government and your potential offspring a favor and DON’T HAVE CHILDREN.

Sure we can ‘have it all’ ladies. Just not all at the SAME TIME.

*For the sake of her daughter I am praying for an early release along with the rest of the country. After all, it isn’t her fault that her reporter mom is selfish and has her priorities wacked.

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