Given my recent track record of posting about sensitive topics, I am sure all of you (all 7 of you) have been wondering “when will Marcy talk about Jon & Kate?” Wait no longer. But since I spent the day at a Surf Camp and then soccer practice with some laundry, traffic, dinner stress thrown in…I am gonna give it to you in bullets.(FYI Bullet lists are a lazy busy writer’s best friend).
- Why is it that Kate is universally referred to as being a controlling bitch after her husband CHOSE to cheat on her. But before, she was just a ‘control freak’? So he CHEATS but it is clearly all her fault? Even if your wife is a raging bee-otch…get the divorce FIRST. Then seek the company of ridiculously young women K?
- Jon’s claim that the 23 yr old is ‘just a friend, and he is allowed to have friends’ is a crock. Husbands with 8 children are not allowed to be ‘friends’ with a 23yr old hard body co-ed girl. EVER. (that was for all the husbands out there that are thinking that excuse might fly with their own wife. Trust me. Don’t even try it)
- I think the 23 yr old might be pregnant. Wonder if evil TLC will give HER a show?
- Does anyone agree NOW that deliberately having extreme multiples is a BAD BAD thing?
- I cant wait until mega controlling Kate has to hand those babies over to Jon for his first weekend. And he feeds them all fast food, sugar, trans fats and red dye #5. Her organic thing had to be annoying to Jon. Hello? Convenience once in a while?
- Kate’s hair looks like she left the salon before it was finished. Or she let the kids do it. with craft scissors. And stop with the tanning already. JEEZ. AND? She has a tattoo of Winnie the Pooh on her ankle. TACKY. I think Winnie the Pooh people should sue.
- I have renamed the show “Kate plus 8, and Jon every other weekend and Wednesday nights excluding Holidays, Birthdays and School Events”
- I think Kate has done more than cry on the shoulder of the hunky body guard. If she hasn’t and it is JUST BUISNESS why not replace him with someone else?
- I know everyone wants to say the kids loose…and they do…but I am secretly excited for the freedom they will feel not being under Kate’s obsessive compulsive militant regime. “Daddy can I stay up to watch Hannah Montana?”…”HELL YES you can kids. HELL YES.”
- I think that bratty Maddy is on her way to being a mini-Kate. Scary.I kinda hate her. I know I am an evil person. But come on already! That girl has got PROBLEMS.
- I am HAPPY the state of Pennsylvania is looking into allegations (made by her SISTER who has been seen on the show) that the children are being exploited. How can this be in question anymore? Hey Pennsylvania- YES. YES they are.
And finally I leave you with a little motto:
A bad marriage is better than a good divorce.
Of course this doesn’t apply to like a really BAD marriage (abuse etc)…but in so many cases I see people who just are never frickin satisfied. And since they have an insane victim complex, they think the world owes them a BETTER marriage. Usually they go on to get remarried only to find out it sucks worse than the first. Or sometimes its better. What the hell do I know anyway?
I am dying to know what all of you make of this Jon & Kate thing….comment me.
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I am L.O.L. good think I voted for the right person huh? Great article
I’m with you on almost all of it. And I am team Kate here. I know she’s super control freak type-A and it would annoy me, but please – he knew what he was marrying. It worked for him because he was too wussy to do anything on his own, so don’t whine about the life you chose now.
I could have smacked him tonight when he said “I’m only 32…” WTH? So what dude, that’s freaking irrelevant. Your kids need you, and they come before your happiness. Take out the earrings, sell the motorcycle, stay home from the bars, and go see a marriage counselor. MAN UP!
(Can you tell I feel strongly about this?)
I think Jon’s taking the easy way out. I don’t know how either of them can manage 8 kids alone. (I know they have help, but it’s different.) I usually keep my yap shut about these things (seriously, who the freak am I to judge, I’ve got a horrible back-story) but it just seems like Jon wants to be young hip fun guy for a while and so that’s that. If you had asked me two years ago if I would ever be defending Kate, I would have peed myself laughing, but when one parent acts like a kid, I fully believe that the other one is forced to overcompensate. Dude, some people call her a control freak, but with 10 people in a household, can you blame her?
And if I hear one of them say “for the kids” one more time, I’m going to scream. That phrase is literally in every other sentence out of their mouths.
The whole thing is just sad. And maybe it’s the drama-queen in me, but tonight’s episode was much more mellow than I was anticipating. No tears, they were both so stoney. I don’t know if it was edited that way or if both of them agreed to keep their mouths shut, but for the sake of the kids, (look, it’s ok when I say it) it was nice (albeit a little boring) that they didn’t lay into each other.
Long enough? Sheesh. I could go on for days!
Damn, I missed it. Stupid dishes.
Ahem. I think I agree with you (and Heather), but since I missed it I can’t be sure. If they had asked me I would have told them to turn the cameras off 2 years ago and get into marriage counseling. Those kids need 2 parents in the same house. Believe me. I have some personal experience with the issue and they NEVER get over a parent leaving. Never.
I love the new show title!!! That was awesome!!
They are all screwed. The kids will be f’d up as ALL children are messed up over divorce, no matter how old they are when it happens. At this age they will believe it is their fault, no matter WHAT they are told. and that Maddie?? Think she is a terror now? Just wait. I agree that the “I put my children first” bs is a pile of, well, BS! They are having their own little argument with that one, “I
m leaving you because I put the kids first.” “No, I’m the one that puts the kids first and you are the evil one for leaving.”
YUK, divorce is just YUK. I wanted to throw my computer at the tv when he said he was excited. WTF, your kids will watch this someday and you are announcing you are excited to leave their mother and screw them up for life???
Sad, very sad.
Kelly
I’m watching the announcement episode as I’m typing this. I totally agree with you on this- I’m sick of Kate being the evil one. Yeah she is a controlling uber b&^%$ but that didn’t give him the right to go out and act like a horny teenager. He is a big ole loser in my book!!
I totally agree with Heather on this- He needs to remove that dumb earring, put the motorcycle away ,spare us with his Ed Hardy outfits and head to a therapist.
A huge pet peeve of mine is people that divorce each other because it’s so hard!! Why do people give up on marriage so easily. What happened to actually putting work into something and not being so selfish!! I know Divorce is necessary in some cases but most of the time I can’t help but think it’s a big cop out for lazy people that don’t want to put any effort into life.
It’s a tragic situation and if either of these fools cared for their children even a bit -they would have turned off the cameras a season or two ago. They are both selfish and in it for the money and fame. I wanted to smack both of them when they were complaing about the paparazzi- Please-you know they so love it!!
Ok- I need to stop- I could seriously write a book about this!!
I agree with you whole heartedly on most of what you wrote. No husband should be friends (without his wife) with a 20 something girl (or any girl for that matter). If he cheated – it is 100% his fault – a wife can’t DRIVE YOU to cheat. Take responsibility. And don’t be EXCITED for what the future holds – it should have held couples counseling!!! I understand that sometimes you have no option but the divorce, but not without some serious couples and individual counseling first.
Amen.
But I thought her hair was cute…on the African American women I first saw it on. They pulled off that look and made it sassy and fun. Kate? Not so much.
Money is the root of all evil! Kate could not walk away from $75,000 an episode to get her family in check. Now she has plenty of money but an upcoming divorce. John is an idiot but I think the money gave him the confidence and freedom to stray. In hindsight, they should have passed on the money and concentrated on keeping their family together.
It’s all bad, but when Jon said he was EXCITED about the new chapter in his life (i.e. life without a wife and kids) I joined TEAM KATE!
Honestly, watching that episode just made me really sad for those kids.
I have 8 kids. My wife comes first. She was here before they were, and she’ll be here when they’re gone, if they ever are, which some days I wonder about.
I don’t know these people well enough to make judgments, but the deal is, if you take the millions for exposing yourself, you have to know it’s going to destroy you. There aren’t any examples that I can think of of “reality TV” stars that pimped themselves like this and did NOT end up with serious problems.
But at least they’re rich, right. Ha. I’ll take my relative poverty and the hugs I get every day, not just alternate weekends.
Thankfully, I don’t watch the show. However, it’s almost impossible to not be aware of the program and I’ve read things here and there.
It sounds like they each need a break, because they both must be so tired! I know how my hubby and I nit-pick at one another when we’re over-tired and we’ve just got 2 children! Yes, they were crazy to purposely have several children (if that’s the case, again I don’t follow the show) but it doesn’t matter now. All the kids exist and are loved, but there is no way just 2 people can handle all those kids with no regular break, which leads to poor decisions, such as seeking that break outside your wife. (not saying it’s okay) I can imagine how controlling a mom might become, because you need to remain in control of the gang of kids & difficult to release & let go. (that would get annoying)
I’m curious- Did TLC help provide “date nights” for Jon & Kate so they could recharge and remember what they loved about each other? Now that divorce is pending, is TLC going to provide the NANNY to help with the bratty daughter, etc? I’m just curious. Again, I don’t watch the show, but it too bad they can’t have some volunteers from Church help on a regular basis so Jon & Kate can reconnect as husband and wife- not just mom and dad?
*An after thought about that “other” woman, what was SHE thinking? How can any sane, young woman get herself involved with that situation? With it being televised, how could she not KNOW what the deal was and get involved? Was she so desperate to get on tv? Talk about baggage…Jon is overloaded! How can he possibly take care of her and she’s now going to be expected to help him with someone else’s 8 kids! Wow. I wonder how long she’ll stick?
In the begining it was just a sweet little documentary style story about a couple with 8 babies struggling to survive after kate had to quit her job. They did such a good job with the kids, it was inspiring to all the mommies out there with only 1 or 2 kids. Kate took the job of “mommy” seriously, and she was so good at it.
But then, slowly, it morphed into something very different- the fame and the money corrupted them.
It’s an age-old story now. Nothing new here anymore.
I think they are both emotionally immature and some one needs to force them to sit down and talk to each other as adults. I think that if more people could discuss their feelings and views rationally without acquisitions and hurtful words there would be a lot less family drama.
And yes, the next work is exploiting the entire family situation, but maybe everyone will play nice with the cameras around and the kids will be spared the petty hurtfully things that happen after many parents split.
I agree with Carolyn. It’s really sad how much the show and their family changed. Kate says that she wants to keep doing the show for the kids so that they have money for college. At $75,000 an episode, I think that’s been paid for a long time ago. Turn off the show and work on your family. That’s what’s going to matter most to those kids.
And as a side note, they didn’t have that many kids on purpose. They used IUI, which only stimulates the ovaries to produce eggs, not IVF. I had IUI right around the same time that she did and if I would have heard her story first, I would have been freaking out!
Of course it’s all “for the kids.”
If, for “kids,” you substitute the word “money.”
i don’t watch the show either because the premise makes me sick. it can’t be avoided though, even if you don’t watch it! so i agree about everything but the “a bad marriage is better than a good divorce” part. you DO SOMETHING (healthy and hard like counseling) if the marriage is bad. but even without abuse (etc.), if you can’t fix it, it’s time for a divorce. i think that puts me on team The Kids.
What a mess. A sad, pathetic mess. Cheating is never excusable. Never, ever. If your spouse is that much of a pain, leave. God forbid that you stay and try to make it better. As Jon said last night, “I’m only 32.”
Much too young to tie himself to a wife and 8 kids that he had to medically conceive. Why don’t people actually consider others before themselves?
Your picture of the kids made me so sad.
I was really hoping Jon and Kate would tell TLC to take their contract and shove it so they could go about trying to repair their marriage. Let’s face it… no one is going to be able to heal in such a public fashion. Raising multiples is a stressful thing, but raising kids in general is stressful. I’m glad my husband and I had a strong marriage BEFORE we had our children… and didn’t try to raise our daughters on TV.
I have only watched one or two episodes of this show when it first aired. So I do not know the intricacies of the personalities involved. What I do know is that the situation they put their small children in is totally negligent — in my opinion. Never mind their lousy marriage, their immaturity or their greed, these kids have the double challenge of already being conspicuous (mega-multiples) without the added burden of fame. Greed is the No. 1 driving force in this relationship and it destroyed everything. They put their children second when they first realized the show was creating problems in their lives. I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt on agreeing to have TV in their lives. Once they realized the negative effect, they should have backed away. To still consider a show, now that they are separated is the height of selfishness and greed.
Whew. I’m done.
In true Marcy form: “Kate plus 8, and Jon every other weekend and Wednesday nights excluding Holidays, Birthdays and School Events”
I agree with you. This isn’t the fault of the show. Life is hard. They’re simply giving up on it with the false hope that divorce is going to fix what they’re doing wrong… instead of getting the help they need to actually fix it.
Sad.
I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I’ve never commented before. I LOVE having your posts come to my inbox everyday so I voted for you at BlogLuxe. I have to say, though, I don’t agree with your quote:
“A bad marriage is better than a happy divorce.”
Maybe it’s too general, the word “bad”. Raising children in a negative environment where the parents are always fighting is sooo detrimental. There’s already an unnatural chaos in having 8 young children and I hope the children don’t have to see the fighting. Sooner or later they’ll learn what happened – how could they not? I hear about Jon & Kate everywhere these days. If they grow up with parents that dote on them, even if they don’t dote on each other, they might just be the better for it.
I guess in short, I just don’t see divorce as the end of the world, and I’m not implying that anyone else thinks that way. Here’s a question: would you rather they stuck it out until those kids went off to college and then quietly went their seperate ways?
My parents were divorced when I was pretty young – and it WAS for the best but it was still ugly. There’s no easy way out. I had to laugh at both of them with their words about how they will get through it and things will be better on the “other side”. Sorry guys, there is NO other side! You still have to deal with each other ALL THE TIME not to mention any new significant others AND any additional kids that may or may not come from the sig other. They sold out – big time! And they sold out their kids. FOR WHAT?! $$$$ It’s sad. It just makes me very sad…
OK, I shouldn’t care…I hate that I’m still reading stuff about them, but its like a sickness, you know?
My thoughts on marriage/divorce (please people, don’t send me hate mail): Its not for the weak. YOU HAVE TO WORK AT IT. YOU HAVE TO WANT TO MAKE IT WORK.
Don’t say “duh”. But what J&K should have done, when they first started having marital problems and the show obviously exacerbated them? WAS TO QUIT THE SHOW. Put their marriage first. Because it doesn’t matter how much money you have if you’re miserable. Vacations and huge houses are nice, but they only take you so far…
(And Mady? Oh my hell. Teenie bitch on wheels.)
“Kate plus 8, and Jon every other weekend and Wednesday nights excluding Holidays, Birthdays and School Events”
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
Never watched the show, never will, never felt I missed anything.
Those people should have been made to watch the movie “Indecent Proposal” before accepting the show. And we need to turn our backs, now.