I have been watching as a few co-workers and friends have their first child and learn to find balance between their paying jobs  and their unpaying jobs at home. It is mega hard. The organizational skills alone are award-worthy. But we figure it out. We plan, have calendars and to-do lists up the ying-yang. We set reminders on our phone for the kids homework due dates. We plan business trips praying there wont be an un-calendared school recital or flu outbreak at home. We move forward, giving 100% in BOTH parts of our lives…which if my math serves me correctly- is impossible.

We compensate by cutting back on sleep in favor of laundry and cleaning out our email boxes. We stop going to the gym. Or shopping. Or even socializing with friends. Maybe we dye our hair at home so we can multi-task and be more productive. We stop making dinner and we start buying it. We cut back on our personal blog (ahem) in favor of professional projects. We learn to live with hair-in-pony-tail day in and day out. Yes, we make lots of edits to our lives to make it all possible. To fit it all in. To do EVERYTHING.

Of course these changes happen gradually, and before long you realize you are different than you were before you were a working mom. In my case I am fatter, more exhausted and often frustrated. But I am also happier, have more purpose and clearly exhilarated.

So when HuffPo posted this little list of things NOT to say to a working mom, I thought I would write a post about what YOU SHOULD SAY to a working mom.

So here it is, the list.

1. You look great today. Can I bring you a latte?

It is a short list.

Please note: I used the cheesiest ‘working mom’ photo I could find. Which wasn’t hard- apparently working mom means BRING THE BABY TO WORK to most people who shoot stock photography. The other favorite image? The carrying-the-baby-and-briefcase-at-same-time photo.

13 yr old boy begs his friends mom to let her son play World of Warcraft to keep him out of jail. Yep.


Dear Mrs. Massura, You should buy Jack a 3 month subscription to WOW. It would benefit both of us- me by being able to talk to Jack instead of talking to myself. Plus, it would benefit you because you wouldn’t have to listen to him or hear him for a long time. Plus it keeps [...]

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I am calling bull sh*t on Sheryl Sandberg. (Although I am sure she is a very lovely person who would want to be my BFF if she met me and should not shut down my Facebook account just because I disagree with her.)


Recently, Sheryl Sandberg- the COO of Facebook (formerly Google) was interviewed (In a video for, a video project compiling videos of accomplished women) and of all the golden nuggets of wisdom this smart, fascinating driven executive could have given us, the coverage of the interview became about one stupid, idiotic and frankly ridiculous fact. [...]

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Work/Life Balance is so old school.


As I often do, I end up in conversations with just about every person I sit next to on a plane. I like to learn about where they work, their family where they are headed. Of course they ask about my life too. And without a doubt they almost always ask “How to you balance [...]

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Why I road trip.

Here I am loading up the car for our trip. Okay that’s not me, but could be- except I have way more luggage. But other than that, this whole scene is a dead ringer… I love road trips, and frequently plan them to take with my boys. The husband rarely comes, since he has this [...]

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Amish Mom in the OC

I am excited to report that a very good friend of mine is coming for a visit at the end of the month. She keeps changing the dates on me, because she thinks I have nothing to do with my life but sit around and wait for her to show up and visit me, but [...]

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The classics. As I see it.


Okay the suspense is killing me. Can anyone please tell me WHAT the top secret Christmas-tree shaped project is??? What could it be? One of Marie’s dolls? How about plans for another creepy brother-sister talk show come back? Maybe it is the book of Mormon as told by Father Osmond. Oh someone tell me!

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My good fortune. Or not.


I am one of those stupid people who actually open up their mass produced fortune cookie after Chinese food with the hope that it will contain actual wisdom passed down to me from Buddha himself. In my HEAD I know they are just made up stupidness printed at a factory in San Francisco, but part [...]

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His off season…


You may recall I saw Santa recently at a car show, and last week I ran into him in Newport. I wasn’t sure at first it was him, but the front of his shirt said ‘North Pole’ and the back? Well, as you can see…I am certain it was HIM.

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