I have been watching as a few co-workers and friends have their first child and learn to find balance between their paying jobs  and their unpaying jobs at home. It is mega hard. The organizational skills alone are award-worthy. But we figure it out. We plan, have calendars and to-do lists up the ying-yang. We set reminders on our phone for the kids homework due dates. We plan business trips praying there wont be an un-calendared school recital or flu outbreak at home. We move forward, giving 100% in BOTH parts of our lives…which if my math serves me correctly- is impossible.

We compensate by cutting back on sleep in favor of laundry and cleaning out our email boxes. We stop going to the gym. Or shopping. Or even socializing with friends. Maybe we dye our hair at home so we can multi-task and be more productive. We stop making dinner and we start buying it. We cut back on our personal blog (ahem) in favor of professional projects. We learn to live with hair-in-pony-tail day in and day out. Yes, we make lots of edits to our lives to make it all possible. To fit it all in. To do EVERYTHING.

Of course these changes happen gradually, and before long you realize you are different than you were before you were a working mom. In my case I am fatter, more exhausted and often frustrated. But I am also happier, have more purpose and clearly exhilarated.

So when HuffPo posted this little list of things NOT to say to a working mom, I thought I would write a post about what YOU SHOULD SAY to a working mom.

So here it is, the list.

1. You look great today. Can I bring you a latte?

It is a short list.

Please note: I used the cheesiest ‘working mom’ photo I could find. Which wasn’t hard- apparently working mom means BRING THE BABY TO WORK to most people who shoot stock photography. The other favorite image? The carrying-the-baby-and-briefcase-at-same-time photo.

Williamsburg, Virginia. Yes that colonial one.


Last week I had a great opportunity to visit Colonial Williamsburg for a client event. I had never been before, and was pretty taken back with the authentic charm. These people take their period commitments seriously. The hotel was astonishingly beautiful- equivalent to being a resident in the White House I imagine. And I knew [...]

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What I learned about NATO protestors from not reading their website.


I know nothing about politics. Please don’t try to educate me, or lecture me on how I SHOULD know more about politics. I don’t want to know. I research issues, then I vote — and then I let it go. I rarely watch the news. And I never read the paper. So hate me. So [...]

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What is a stick boy anyway? (Anaheim Ducks)


Blogging has brought me lots of things. Countless free packages of brand ‘stuff’ show up at my door quite regularly. Everything from custom cupcakes, to video games to cars to drive and tons and tons of household ‘stuff’. But one of the best joys for me, is to be able to provide experiences to my [...]

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5 reasons this relationship ended.

I haven’t wanted to discuss this- it but I think it is time I said something. Like any relationship there is always a period of time that feels like it will go on forever- and you simply can not imagine EVER not having it in your life. But one day you start to realize things [...]

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Oh Pinterest- don’t let us down.

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{BrandTalk} What not to outsource


Given that my official office is in Chicago and I live in California, I travel a great deal. Add in 2 or 10 speaking engagements and I travel a lot. And I fly one specific airline every time possible. Yes, to rack up the points and keep my special status- but also because when you [...]

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Swing and a miss: And open letter to Little League.


Dear National Little League- Thank you so much for banning composite bats  days AFTER the actual sign-ups AND the holiday season. You know the holidays right? That is when millions of parents spend hard earned money buy their kids toys and SPORT equipment as gifts right? And in case you haven’t checked the prices lately- [...]

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